The REAL Power of the Pussy

Posted on December 11, 2016 in Conscious Relating, Consciousness, female body, Feminine, Feminism, Love, Masculine, News, Power, Relationship, Sex, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra | 2 comments

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Pussy power is all the rage these days. Heard of the Jade Egg? Keegels? Yoni Steams? What about Yoni massage and learning how to squirt? Tantric Sex, Taoist Sexual Kung Fu? It’s all there if you know where to look (google)!

 

Doing different vagina practices is said to help release trauma, tension, heal emotional wounding stored in there, as well as make your yoni (the Sanskrit word for vagina. It means ‘temple’ or the ‘origin place’, among other things) super toned, and able to do all kinds of awesome sexy moves for the lucky person who finds themselves inside there. It can also increase sensitivity, pleasure and your orgasmic potential. Hooray!

 

I know for me on my journey, receiving a lot of therapeutic Yoni Massage was one of the biggest game changers in opening up my sexuality, ability to feel pleasure and letting go of shame in order to love my body. There was a distinctive ‘before yoni massage’ Courtney and an ‘after yoni massage’ Courtney.

 

In my experience, this has been the main angle that people approach this kind of work from. For personal healing, pleasure and power. Which is really important.

 

But this really awesome payoff can actually become a limit if we don’t understand how much greater the impact could be on our lives and the lives of those around us. When our goal is so short of the actual potential reach. And the goal itself changes when we have an understanding of what the vagina actually is to us, how powerful she is, and the the role she can play on a large scale of global awakening.

That’s what this article is about. How she can enlighten your relationships, the planet and the steps you can take to bring that into your own life right now. 

 

Naomi Wolf’s amazing book, Vagina: A New Biography  is one of the few books I believe should be handed out to every human being upon being born. It gives deep insight into the psyche of women and the scientific research into the hows and why, due to the way our nervous system is structured (and linked to the vagina), that the vagina is in fact, the seat of the consciousness of every woman.

 

That’s right. The vajajay is the home and baseline of our consciousness, ladies! 

 

And I mean that literally. Working on the happiness of yoni town is literally working on us being in our full juice, power, potential and happiness. I went from sexually shut down and silent in the bedroom to well… let’s just say I can let go into a lot of vocal appreciation nowadays (after a big journey).

 

But  what’s this ‘true understanding’, ‘higher goal’ and ‘greater impact’ I’m talking about??

 

Any takers?

 

Oh go on, let me tell you!! 🙂

 

I’ve been studying and practicing Conscious and Sacred Sexuality for about seven years now. I’ve lived in Tantra communities and travelled all over the world with it.  And while I have a very strong inner Masculine that I have cultivated, my baseline is that of a very strong Feminine.

 

I mean those two things, Masculine and Feminine, not in the way society defines it (where it equates to man and woman), but to how it’s defined in Tantra. In this framework, The Masculine is that which is still, steady. It is the witness. It is penetrative consciousness. The void, emptiness, nothingness, the impersonal. The eternal unchanging which sits underneath the eternally changing.

 

The Feminine is that which is eternally changing. She is life, energy and matter. She is love, emotion, intuition, chaos. She is feeling. One of the main qualities of the Feminine is receptivity and magnetism.

 

The seat of the Feminine in women, energetically, is in their vaginas (check out Mantak Chia’s Sexual Kung Fu work to learn more about this).

 

The principle of polarity is that two perfect opposites (of the same frequency) attract. In blatantly obvious terms we can look at that in terms of penises and vaginas. One is penetrative, the other receptive. However, polarity doesn’t only operate in physical terms. To limit reality to the physical in this way  would be to deny the polarity that can totally exist and move in flux between same sex couples, or those who don’t identify in the binary. It isn’t only about the physical. It’s about the energy of these two principles moving between people, whatever sex or gender. I just used the genital description to be as obvious as I possibly could and get my point across.

 

When a woman heals her yoni and recognises it as the seat of her power, something quite amazing happens. It becomes even more receptive.

 

And it begins to suck.

Not in a bad way of ‘you suck.’

 

But literally SUCK. And she is sucking and calling for consciousness. She is calling for that which is the perfect and opposite polarity to her. She begins drawing the highest level of consciousness and presence out in those around her. Especially people whose essence baseline is Masculine (usually, though not always, men).

 

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Back in 2015 I was going through one of the most intense spiritual emergences of my life. In that time of being super sensitive and cracked open, I had some really intense sexual experiences, which sent me into a number of prolonged 30+ hour peak states. In those peak states I would find myself typing at my computer at 3am with my eyes closed (I had too much energy to sleep). When I opened my eyes there were pages of instruction on being a Sexual Priestess.

 

I know.

Intense.

 

None of my Sexual Tantra teachers had ever given me direction in this specific way, either. I started following this advice from these psychic downloads and all of this led me to the experiential (as opposed to intellectual) understanding of the power of the pussy and how it literally is the seat of the consciousness of women. And why it’s important for women to understand this AND use these pussy practices with this motivation in mind, along with all the healing they can get.

 

At this time I was told (by super priestess download state):

 

“Women have forgotten their power. They think in order to be powerful they have to be masculine. It’s important to cultivate both sides of you, but many women have stopped operating from their baseline essence when in relationship with men specifically. You have done this too. You have a really strong consciousness, but you feel like you need to prove it, to some degree. You come up out of yourself with men, in order to meet them in Masculine Consciousness, instead of resting in your Feminine and receiving them there. You do this to feel safe. You do it because you think your Feminine isn’t good enough or smart enough.

 

“But the thing is, when you rest in your Feminine, your Feminine naturally draws out the highest level of consciousness of each man and matches them in a different way. The way to call a man into true presence is not to meet them in Masculine Consciousness, but to rest in your Feminine. The way you do this is by being in your pussy. Put your awareness in you pussy, Courtney!”

 

The download went on to say:

“Imagine if all women everywhere knew how to do this. All those women who are complaining that ‘men aren’t doing the work’. They would never have to feel that again because they would be able to immediately call those men into presence. Imagine how the world would change if Feminine essence women understood their power and lived in it and used it, not to manipulate, but to call every other man and woman around them into full presence.

 

“Imagine how the wives of CEOs could call their partners into greater integrity, into truth. How the political system could change. How the love and intimacy in people’s everyday lives could grow. Imagine how that would change men’s attitudes to women and bring them into deeper love, devotion and respect. How that in itself would dissolve the unhealthy patriarchy. Can you imagine the level of peace on this planet?

 

“And it all starts with putting your awareness in your vagina. Your vagina is your greatest weapon for consciousness. Heal it, empower it and most importantly, put your awareness in it. You can stand in your own power AND change the whole world at the same time. ”

 

So I started experimenting with it.

 

I did meditations with myself, I took other women through vagina processes I had developed and saw what happened with them and their partners. It was radical and I received a lot of inspiring feedback. Relationships were changing and deepening. Intimacy was growing.

 

It was beautiful.

 

I had already seen how working with my vagina opened me up to my own pleasure, power and sexuality, but I had never really thought more about the relational aspect of this, other than the obvious deepening of sexual and emotional intimacy.

 

So I experimented with what happened in simple and more complicated conversations with men.
I was pretty astounded at what I saw.

 

What I noticed was that whenever I was in conversation with a man, and I put my awareness on the physical sensations and energy in my yoni, their eyes would brighten and they would immediately become more present with me. As soon as I would stop, they would stop being as present. I wasn’t throwing my sexual energy at them. Literally all I was doing was allowing my presence in my vagina to awaken. The magnetic polarity of it had the effect of calling their masculine consciousness into full presence.

 

Probably the most astounding experiment was with a close male friend. We were having a very tenuous conversation. I was challenging him on his integrity and he didn’t like it. He totally lost all presence and went into trigger response.

 

I immediately breathed deeply. I let go of my exhalation with some sound and sunk deeply into my body and into my pussy. I put all of my attention there. I used my pussy as a magnate to call his highest consciousness into presence. In a matter of seconds his attitude towards me changed and became much more relational and able to move through his trigger, owning his stuff and being more aware.

 

The power of the pussy had called him to become conscious to the weird shit he was pulling.

It was an amazing experience!

 

I also experimented with this principle during sex with a lover who was coming out of a ‘cocoon period’ of his life. This was a really brilliant man who I loved very much. He had (has) an amazing mind and naturally, due to what had been happening he was in a place where he was not in his power, and certainly not embodied in it. By his own words, he felt quite directionless and a bit lost.

 

During sex I applied this principle. I put a large amount of my awareness in my yoni, whilst remaining aware of my whole body and remaining relaxed. I allowed my yoni to become a magnate. I let myself feel through him where his highest consciousness was, and, using my vagina, moved his consciousness down so it was present through his whole body.

 

At the end of sex I looked and him he looked totally different. He looked powerful. Energetically and physically. Like all of his energy and consciousness had arrived back in his body. He felt like a king. It was not very long after that experience that I watched him start moving his life around and making changes to start new businesses and projects and get fully back on track and embodied in life. He is the only one who can take credit for the changes he makes in his life, AND I know that vagina town had had a positive impact and was a part of calling that to emerge.

 

So what are some of the things you can do to call this out in others too?

 

There are so many people offering Jade Egg courses, Sexual Tantra and conscious sexuality are available pretty much anywhere. Yoni massage (with a really in-integrity practitioner), or a home made yoni steam are great! You will have all kinds of benefits including pleasure, power and health.

 

But the effects in your life are greater when you’re doing it from a place not just of self pleasure and health, but of understanding how you can flourish in your full power and call others into theirs. You get to heal yourself, create better dynamics in your relationships and enlighten the world. Yeah! Pussy power!

 

It seriously changes the payback. Exercising your consciousness and pleasure muscle (the yoni) could possibly be one of the best time investments you’ll ever make.

 

But the first thing I recommend is…

 

Breathe.

 

Put your awareness in your vagina and breathe into her. Let yourself feel the sensations. Feel the numbness and pain. Notice the emotions that arise and welcome it all. And keep breathing. Relax her, when your yoni is relaxed, you mind will relax more. And keep breathing, deeply. Speak to her. Ask her how she is. Is there anything she needs form you?

 

This is stage number one.

Stage number two is to simply experiment.

 

Notice what happens when you’re speaking with masculine people (try it also with women or queer people who feel more masculine in their energy to you). How do their eyes change? How does their body posture change? Do they become more interested and vulnerable?

 

But do it from a place of love and curiosity. If you use any of these practices to have power over someone or manipulate them, they will feel it and will no longer trust you. It’s up to you if you want to have power over or power with. You will see the fruits in your life accordingly.

 

Whatever else, doing these practices is going to connect you more deeply to yourself. And that is awesomeness itself.

 

The real power of the pussy is not just that she feels good, or that she opens up our personal consciousness as women. That she can show us where we have healing to do or that she can help us open into juicy sexy love bliss. The real power of the pussy is the fruits she gives in our lives – not just through children (if you want them) – but through the way she can literally awaken the consciousness of both ourselves and the people around us.

 

When we’re all living in our highest and most embodied consciousness, that’s how we’re going to create the kind of universal reality that many of us, deep down, really long for.

 

And that is a place of unity, love, safety and presence to what is.

 

So jump on the yoni train ladies! She’s ready for you, at any time. Getting off or getting on. She’s pretty joyful about the whole shebang!

 

To open more into this in your own life, come and work with me. Either one on one, through Clearing and Coaching, or come and participate in one of the Fierce Mystics events or courses.

 

So much juicy, sexy, joyful love!

 

 

 

2 Comments

  1. Wow… This is really interesting!! I yearn for more feminine energy and connections in my life!!

    • Hey Michael! Where in the world are you based? The neo Tantra world is a great place to start connecting with feminine women!