Relationship ‘failure’ and ‘success’ and why ‘The One’ is the greatest load of bullshit EVER!

Relationship ‘failure’ and ‘success’ and why ‘The One’ is the greatest load of bullshit EVER!

    He said to me “I feel like in the space there’s this judgement that ‘we failed’ or ‘you failed’ or ‘I failed’ and that’s why it didn’t ‘work’. I don’t think there’s a failure, I think it’s just two different people coming together and this is what they created.”   I said (honestly – or what felt to be honest at the time) “Well, I don’t feel that there’s a failure. I think that there’s just what is. And some of it was beautiful...

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Celebration as the Path to Fulfilment

Celebration as the Path to Fulfilment

I Graduated from University on Thursday.   It also happened to be my sister’s 27th birthday (she was in Sydney, where she lives, shopping and test-driving a Peugeot convertible).   I spent three solid years of my life dedicated to that degree and working my arse off to learn the most I could and achieve the best results I could. However, by the third year I was quite disillusioned with the institution itself and had stopped caring anywhere near...

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Why Having Fun is Top on my Agenda

Why Having Fun is Top on my Agenda

I recently came out of a 10 day Buddhist, silent meditation retreat. I sit these courses once or twice every year. But this course, by far, was the most intense one I’ve done yet. While I barely had any physical pain, despite sitting still for 10 1/2 hours every day, and the actual emotions that were arising were fairly manageable (I never said anything about sexual fantasy though! Wow, talk about a filthy mind!), what I was getting to...

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The Importance Of Truth And Open Communication In Our Society

The Importance Of Truth And Open Communication In Our Society

          This morning I opened a midnight text message from an old friend which said something along the lines of “Can I please talk to you? I know it’s late. But I need help. It’s ok if you can’t. Just a warning, it’s heavy shit.”   I had been asleep when she sent it, but called as soon as I was awake enough to be present with her.   It turns out that her body is remembering childhood sexual trauma.    She just wanted to chat about what was...

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